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I wouldn’t say therapy, because psychology isn’t very good at taking in the sociological view. But it has to do with working on your inner history to understand that you were in systems, and that they are in you. It has to do with looking around yourself the way sociologists do and seeing the big patterns in the rest of society, while keeping a balance and really respecting your experience. Seeing the oppression of others is, of course, very important work. But so is seeing how the systems oppress oneself.
The Origins of Privilege. Peggy McIntosh’s response to Joshua Rothman, “It seems as though, for you, talking about privilege shouldn’t lead to arguments; it should be a kind of therapy.”
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"Be like the flower that gives its fragrance to even the hand that crushes it.”

- Imam Ali (a)

Holy shit.

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The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself, other people spend it for you.
Peter Shaffer
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The mind is constantly trying to figure out what page it’s on in the story of itself. Close the book. Burn the bookmark. End of story.

Now the dancing begins.

Ikko Narasaki, from Now Burn
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my teacher sent a student home today because the student had had an anxiety attack earlier in the morning and she said “if you have a broken bone, you don’t just keep walking on it and damaging it more, you treat it. Your mental health is the same. Health then school.” 


I agree with this, I do but how do you treat anxiety? Go home and sit in your bedroom until it gets better? I used to go home about 3 times a week in high school due to having such bad panic attacks that they’d physically drain my body- I’d hyperventilate so bad I sometimes vomited or fainted and I had designated students in each classroom to take me to the nurse’s office every time one started. I was diagnosed in December of my senior year with Panic Disorder and had to take a gap year because it was so bad. I watched my friends go to university as I stayed home- waiting to get better. Once I reached university I was like- this shit needs to be fixed and my anxiety is not going to get better by going home every time because unfortunately life isn’t really like that. Life doesn’t always allow you to go home every time your anxiety is pushing you to the limits. So I did the opposite. I took a bunch of speech classes, I got a job where I worked with phones- I hated public speaking, it gave me such bad panic attacks that I’d have to develop breathing patterns and special tricks to hold back an attack. But I learned and I fought through my panic, I didn’t go home. I stared my disorder in the face and I triumphed. And now I compete at slam poetry in front of huge crowds without even shaking. Don’t go home- heal yourself. Find a way to heal.

Fucking A+. There are times for quiet and recharging, and there are times for fighting and growing. Fight when you can, and rest when you can’t.

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Being truly happy means refusing to surrender yourself to every bad mood. You recognize your behavioral patterns, right? You should know by now that you have triggers, which can send you off to a gnarly shame spiral. We ARE old enough to know better. It’s not like we’re sixteen and putting our fingers into light sockets just to see how it will feel. When we were in high school, it felt good to hurt because our lives were usually so dull that at least it meant something was happening. Being depressed was preferable to being bored. Now things have changed. Life is too busy and, quite frankly, too real for us to fall and not get up.
More ThoughtCatalog Facebook quotes.
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Before you know it it’s 3 am and you’re 80 years old and you can’t remember what it was like to have 20 year old thoughts or a 10 year old heart.
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Normality is a paved road: It’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow on it.
Van Gogh
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If you want to understand a society, take a good look at the drugs it uses. Except for pharmaceutical poison, there are essentially only two drugs that Western civilization tolerates: caffeine from Monday to Friday to energize you enough to make you a productive member of society, and alcohol from Friday to Monday to keep you too stupid to figure out the prison you are living in.
Bill Hicks (1961–94)
Respond to every call that excites your spirit.
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Any Road (by 55His.com)

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Learning to ignore things is one of the great paths to inner peace.
Robert J. Sawyer
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A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it.
Jean de La Fontaine
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What Moving On Is Like « Thought Catalog ►
Jan. 11, 2012

Moving on is not like a birthday, you can’t count down the hours ‘til it arrives and you can’t mark it on a calendar and you can’t call up your friends to help you celebrate. You can’t plan for it and you can’t conclude it by blowing out a candle. When moving on happens there will be no announcements, no notifications, no congratulations. There will be no parade; only you will know. Moving on is like aging that way, if aging happened backward. If the passing of days made you new and young, if your condition only had room to improve. Instead of a throbbing pain in your right knee forcefully, increasingly making its presence known, first with a whisper and then with a mumble and then with a shout, ‘til you can’t move, ‘til you can’t walk; moving on is gradual like that except when it’s over, you can walk just fine. You can run, even.

Moving on is like this: one day you forget the taste. The next, you forget the smell. Then the touch. Then the laugh. Then the smile. Then the jokes. Then the eyes, the hair, the hands, the feet. You forget the socks. You forget the fingers, the toes, the sex. You forget the pulses, the beats, the rhythms and how you sometimes felt like they all belonged to you. You forget the words; finally, you forget the voice that spoke them. Moving on is like one day, you’re walking or reading or drinking the sun and one of those footprints, one of those artifacts will creep into your consciousness, “already seen,” the French call this, déjà vu, and you won’t know where it belongs or how it got there. All it takes is a familiar laugh, a recognizable word and you are transported to who knows where. You are a confused paleontologist now, scrambling to make sense of things left behind, trying to reunite the right dinosaur with the right bones. The scar from his burst appendix goes here, the part of his leg that doesn’t grow hair belongs there, I think this is his morning breath but maybe it belongs to someone who came before him; some other ghost, some other relic. His taste is an aftertaste now, his crow’s feet a souvenir with no place to call home. That’s what moving on is like.

Moving on is not like beginning a new chapter, it’s like beginning a new book — with each turned page, the last story you read fades into the background. A fairy tale that becomes just another book on a shelf; folded corners and underlined words the only reminder of how you used to touch and hold and love it. Moving on is when you begin to forget the intricacies of a character you knew intimately, you forget what he did for a living and the way he prepared grilled cheese and the nickname he had for his first girlfriend. You forget how he lost his virginity, you forget his middle name.

Moving on is waking up without a sour feeling in your stomach, looking at a familiar menu and ordering something different, taking the direct route to a destination and not the one that crosses a path you once set in stone. Moving on is when you think about him and don’t punish yourself for it, when he begins to evoke more of a scientific response than an emotional one, like “This is a 6’0” blonde-haired person who exists,” and not “This is a person I wish I’d never met; this is a person who has made me less of one.” Moving on is not to destroy or to combust or to set ablaze, it is simply to move, to advance through space and time, to leave behind the familiar dull of heartbreak for the new, the unknown, the strange. Moving on is a bird flying south for the winter who decides maybe the warmth isn’t so bad, who decides maybe he’ll stay there for awhile; moving on is like freedom, is what moving on is like.